Poems About The Father-Child Relationship

Poems About The Father-Child RelationshipA military chaplain- minor relationship can be a resplendent thing for some(prenominal), and complicated for others. There are different kinds of incurs. There are get under ones skins who are always around for their children, who provide guidance and unconditional get by. Then there are impossible-to-please dumbfounds who burden their children with high expectations, leading to a st rain downed relationship. And there are those scrams who, unable to handle the responsibilities of fatherhood, just walk out on their family. approximately people may assure their father in ane way as a child, and grow up to see them in a al single new light. Its a alike(p) when you argue round your curfew and your father make knowns you, Youll understand when you have a child. The complexity and richness of the father-child relationship explains why so many poets spare metrical compositions closely(predicate) fathers and fatherhood.In this le s male child, youll read rimes about the father-child relationship. Youll also find out about the relationship between these poetrys themes and the y pinnule and devices used to express them.The poet Gregory Orr wrote a contact poetry about how fathers learn as much from their children as they t from each one their children. Read Gregory Orrs rime, Fathers Song. What kind of relationship do the father and child in this meter share? What poetical devices does the poet use to depict the nuances of this relationship? This simple 14-line poetry is about the relationship between a protective, caring father and a misgivingfree, roguish child. The use of free verse and lack of rhyme helps bring forth the simplicity and spontaneity of how the father feels about his child.Which lines in the numbers make you almost see what is happening? way at the lines my daughter balanced on the couch back, fell and cut her mouth. and the blood so red that it stops a fathers heart. These line s tell you how the speaker feels about his child. The poesy re heartys how the speakers experience and caution is balanced by his childs willingness to experience life freely and pullulate risks, and the circle continues, round and round. The last dickens lines of this poetry are the essence of a healthy father-child relationship, I try to teach her caution,/ she time-tested to teach me risk. The speaker tries to protect his child from harm, while the child shows him how to be open to adventure and new experiences.Poems About Fathers AnalyzedWhile Gregory Orrs Fathers Song was inspired by fatherhood, other poets have been inspired by their fathers, like the poet Dylan Thomas. Read or listen to Thomass Do not Go Gentle Into That profound Night, which is a sons plea to his demise father to not give in to death. This songs central theme is the speakers inability to accept his fathers old age and mortality. Now lets see how the poems form and structure add to this theme.This p oem is a villanelle, which is a 19-line poem with five tercets, or three-line stanzas, that ends with a quatrain, or four-line stanza. A villanelle was traditionally used to write simple, pastoral poems. So, why do you think Thomas chose to write this poem as a villanelle? The villanelle form of Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night adds to the irony of commanding a weak, dying person to heat against death. Just as this poem is nothing like the typical lyrical, pastoral poem, a weak dying man is not likely to rage against anything.- nevertheless two rhymes are used across the poem with words like, night, light, sight, and day, way, pray. These two recurring rhymes help build on the speakers intensity as he convinces his father to stay alive. The first and third rhymes of the first stanza are repeated alternately in an interlocking rhyme purpose in the succeeding stanzas. The rhyme scheme is aba/aba/aba/aba/aba/abaa, where the first rhyme is joined in the last two lines of the quat rain.The last two lines also bring together the poems two refrains Do not go gentle into that good night, and Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Did you carte that these lines recur all across the poem? They depict the urgency of the speakers pleas as he consistently and force righty urges his father to hang on to life.Lesson Activity-Self-CheckedWhat effect do the two refrains in Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night, have? Do you see to it these refrains differently as the poem progresses? Write your react in 175-200 words.-Besides the urgent refrains, several other poetic devices in the poem Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night help take forward the theme of a sons unwillingness to let his father succumb to death. Metaphors such as good night, dying of the light, and close of day, are used to refer to death. The words day and light represent life. Thats why the speakers father is urged to rage against the dying of the light.The simile, finesse eyes could blaze like m eteors and be gay, implies that although his father may be termination blind, his wisdom and greatness will enable him to see cl azoic with his passs eye.Did you notice the alliteration across the poem? Read the line Do not go gentle into that good night. Dont the alliterative sounds seem to add to the poems urgent madness?-Across the poem there are ikons of bright, illuminating things like lightning and meteors. Why do you think this bright mental imagery is used in a poem about dying? The speaker tries to persuade his father that a great man like him should not easily give in to death. He should cut through the darkness of death and continue to burn bright, as summed up in the lines, Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright/Their frail deeds cogency have danced in a green bay,/Rage, rage against the dying of the light.At the end of the poem, theres a paradox in the line, Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray. The juxtaposition of curse and bless indicate s the sons desire to take his fathers pain unto himself. Its as if by cursing his son, the father can share his pain and fierce tears with his son who doesnt want to lose him.Dylan Thomas wrote Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night when his father, David John Thomas who had always been a strong man, was going blind and was on his deathbed. Thats why many read it as an autobiographical poem. The poet and his father had a great relationship and both shared a be intimate for literature. The poet was very disturbed to see his father ravaged by age and wrote this poem to express how he felt.While Dylan Thomass poem is a sons plea to his dying father, the American poet E. E. Cummingss my father moved through dooms of esteem is an elegy. Read Cummingss my father moved through dooms of love. Whats the first thing that hits you about this poem? Did you notice that the poem is full of paradoxes? Look at phrases like dooms of love, griefs of joy, and theys of we. These and all the other para doxes used take forward the poems theme, lamenting death while still celebrating the life lived.In this poem, the speaker says his father had lived a full life. Look at the lines joy was his song and joy so pure, his anger was as right as rain/ his pity was as green as grain and his sorrow was as true as bread. These lines tell you that whether the speakers father was happy, angry, or sad, he experienced each emotion completely. He inspired others to be the best they could be, his april touch/ drove sleeping selves to s untoughened their fates/ woke dreamers to their ghostly roots. The speaker takes readers across seasons, april touch, septembering arms, octobering flame, that seem to mirror his fathers full life with varied experiences and emotions. The last two lines, because my father lived his soul/love is the whole and more than all, admit how the father lived a life filled with love for and from his family.What do lines like joy was his song and joy so pure, no hungry man but wished him food/no cripple wouldnt creep one mile/uphill to only see him smile, no liar looked him in the head, tell you about the speakers fathers personality? It sounds like the speakers father was liked and revered universally. He lived a pure and full life, which is brought out by the line, because my Father lived his soul.Cummings wrote my father moved through dooms of love in his typical style, with no spaces or adherence to structural rules, to ensure that his creativity and feelings flow freely. Like Dylan Thomass Do Not Go Gentle Into That Good Night, this poem is also considered autobiographical. Cummings wrote this poem as an elegy to his father Edward Cummings, a professor at Harvard University, who died suddenly in a car accident. His fathers sudden death sobered Cummings into writing about more serious aspects of life.Poems About Fathers ComparedWhile poems like Cummingss my father moved through dooms of love create a picture of a loved and good-natured father, othe rs present dark, complicated pictures of fathers, such as the American poet Sylvia Plath. Read Plaths poem Daddy. You can also observation post Plath recite her poem, Daddy. Whats this poem about?Daddy examines a daughters unresolved feelings for her father, who passed away. The speakers father died when she was so young that she was in awe of him, but never really understood him. The speakers awe for her father is reflected in the way she compares him to a bag full of God. She also expresses how she cannot escape from her fathers looming presence, with his one gray toe/ Big as a Frisco seal, reaching out across continents. Her conflicted feelings answer to the shank later in the poem, when despite efforts she cant find her father. She then compares him to a devil, with A cleft in your chin instead of your foot, a brute, and a vampire. The speaker portrays herself as a vampire pop outer, her fathers killer, If Ive killed one man, Ive killed two. The speakers frustration climaxes in the last stanza, where she gets defensive and calls her father names, and exclaims she is through with him.-Plaths poem, Daddy is made up of 16 five-line stanzas. The one rhyme that appears in the poem is inconsistent, You do not do, you do not do, with some consecutive lines that end with words that rhyme with do, like shoe and Achoo, in the first stanza, and then you, blue, Jew, and so on in the other stanzas. Whats the relationship between the inconsistent rhyme scheme and the poems theme of a daughters unresolved feelings? The inconsistent, unpredictable rhyme scheme seems to reflect the speakers emotional turmoil and the conflicting feelings she has for her father. The rhythm created by the sporadically recurring rhyme coupled with the use of symbolism and imagery reflects the speakers attempts to try to take control of the emotional turmoil caused by her fathers disturbing memories.Daddy is about a father, and so the imagery, language, and symbolism used are shocking. Loo k at the poems opening lines, You do not do, you do not do/ Any more, black shoe/ In which I have lived like a foot. These lines provide a glimpse into the speakers contradictory emotions. To show the protective and suffocating side of her father, the speaker uses a shoe as a symbol of her father and the foot inside the shoe as herself. Shoes protect the feet, but also constrict them, thereby symbolizing her conflicted feelings.Are you wondering what references to fascism, Nazis, and the Holocaust are doing in this poem? These images and references depict the speakers confusion about her father. The speaker compares her father to a fascist who puts his boot in the face. She calls her father an Aryan and herself a Jew, to convey that her father tortured her, like the Nazis tortured Jewish people in German death camps. There are constant references to black in the poem to reflect the speakers dark, confused feelings about her father. First, there is the black shoe and then the referen ce to The black telephones off at the root,/the voices just cant worm through. to convey that the speaker has permanently severed her connection with her father.Now look at the last stanza of Daddy? The lines, And the villagers never liked you./They are dancing and stamping on you. reflect the despicable picture that the speaker creates of her father, in her attempts to free herself of the hold that her fathers memory has on her, So daddy, Im finally through. The strongly worded last line, Daddy, daddy, you bastard, Im through. serves as the speakers final rave against the memories that cause her turmoil.Did you wonder about the speakers obsession with her father in this poem? Some critics have tried to explain this obsession by identifying elements of the Electra complex in the poem. The Electra complex refers to a daughters unresolved, unconscious desire for her father. Critics believe that this conflict is reflected in the speakers desperate and contradictory efforts to go to he r father by committing suicide, At twenty I tried to die/And get back, back, back to you, and conversely to end her unhealthy, traumatizing relationship with her fathers memories wanting to kill him even though hes already dead, Daddy, I have had to kill you./You died before I had time The speakers confused feelings are again reflected when she used to pray to recover him.If you know anything about Sylvia Plaths life, youre probably wondering if Daddy is an autobiographical poem? The references, imagery, and symbolism used in Plaths Daddy do resonate with whats known about her life, like the complex feelings and unresolved issues she had toward her father, a Biology professor at Boston University, who died when she was just eight her inability to deal with her fathers untimely death her unsuccessful marriage. When read autobiographically, the line At twenty I tried to die, refers to Plaths attempted suicide at the age of 20 when she overdosed on sleeping pills. The line, The vampire who said he was you/And drank my blood for a year./Seven years, if you want to know. perhaps refer to her unsuccessful marriage to poet Ted Hughes, which lasted for seven years. Plath, burdened with complexities, committed suicide when she was 31, leaving behind two children and her estranged husband, the poet Ted Hughes. This fact probably explains the use of fell and violent imagery, which could only be conjured by a disturbed mind as Plaths was.This autobiographical account would explain the brutal, violent imagery used in the poem, which reflect the poets disturbed state of mind and her confusion as a daughter, who feels abandoned and let-down.-While Sylvia Plaths poem deals with the smothering effect the fathers memories had on the speaker, Robert Haydens Those Winter Sundays contrasts the speakers ideas about his father as a child with how he feels about his father as a grown-up looking back. Read Robert Haydens poem Those Winter Sundays or watch the poem being recited. In this poem, which is a grown mans reflections on his father, the speaker describes the entire father-son dynamic with one winter memory. He thinks back to his childhood and sees his father differently than he did as a child.Those Winter Sundays is an American sonnet, with the traditional 14-lines, and has three stanzas. The first and third stanzas are five lines long, and the southward stanza has four lines. How does the form carry the poems theme forward? Using the sonnet form, , the poem presents a problem in the first two stanzas, where the speaker describes how his father went about his chores for his family and was never appreciated. The resolution to this problem is presented in the final stanza-the speaker realizes his fathers value and feels guilty for how he never thanked him.Focus on the lines, No one ever thanked him, speechmaking indifferently to him, and What did I know, what did I know of loves austere and lonely offices? These lines convey the speakers guilt and rep ent for never appreciating everything his father did for him. Look at the way the poem uses repetition, What did I know, what did I know of loves austere and lonely offices? This line expresses how bad the speaker feels about being so obtuse about his father as a child. And what does offices in this line mean? The word offices brings to mind the responsibilities and duties that come with an authoritative position, in this case fatherhood. The austere and lonely offices describe how the speakers father displayed love by silently and dedicatedly fulfilling his duties to his family.Though an unrhymed poem, a rhythm is created using poetic devices like consonance, repetition, and alliteration. The use of consonance, with the repetition of the troublesome c and k sounds in lines like cracked transfer that ached, and then in weekday weather made banked fires blaze. No one ever thanked him, conveys the pain that the father endured, and how his efforts went unappreciated. The alliteration where the w sound is repeated, in the weekday weather made banked fires blaze, reflects the repetition in the way the father spent his Sunday daysprings.Those Winter Sundays is also rich in symbolism and imagery. What comes to mind when you read about the banked fires blazed and the cold splintering, breaking? This visual imagery makes readers imagine how cold it was through this description of how the logs in the fire would burn and crackle and warm up their home, movement out the cold. The cracked hands symbolize how heavy(a) the father worked, and the blueblack cold depicts the harsh cold that the father endured for his familys comfort. What comes to mind when you read about the banked fires blazed and the cold splintering, breaking? The visual imagery makes readers imagine how cold it was through this description of how the logs in the fire would burn and crackle and warm up their home, driving out the cold.Did you notice the transference in the line, fearing the chronic ang ers of that house? The inanimate house isnt angry. Its the speakers father who is angry and impatient with his children who were lazy about doing their Sunday morning chores. This line is interesting when you look at the poem autobiographically. Hayden, who it is believed was subjected to beatings by his hold dear parents Sue Ellen and William Hayden, only cursorily refers to the chronic angers of that house, and instead concentrates on the banked fires blazed to highlight how his foster father would keep the household warm. In that sense, this poem is not a criticism of his fathers beating, but a delayed tribute to the man who took pains to care for him.Lesson Activity-Self-CheckedAnswer this question in 125-150 wordsWhat is the significance of the words Sundays too in Haydens Those Winter Sundays? Why do you think the poet used these words, instead of just, On Sundays? Support your answer with examples from the poem.Another poet, who explored the theme of the father-son relations hip, is Theodore Roethke. Read his poem, My Papas Waltz and watch the poem being recited. What do you think this poem is about? At the outset, specially considering the title of the poem and the quick rhythm as you read, it seems to be about the speakers fond recollection of playfully dancing around with his father after hed come home from work in the evening.Lets see what elements of the poem support this interpretation. The structure which is made up of four quatrains and has a wet rhyme scheme of abab/cdcd/efef/ghgh, gives the poem the cadence of a waltz to mirror the ordered steps of the father and son dancing around. However, the waltzing here is rough and energetic, not smooth and graceful like waltzing is supposed to be. Similarly, alliteration is used in lines like, such waltzing was not easy, My mothers countenance, Could not unfrown itself, and the hand that held my wrist to add to poems easy rhythm.-Now lets examine the imagery in Roethkes My Papas Waltz. The line, The whiskey on your breath evokes olfactory imagery and the readers can almost smell the whiskey. Similarly, the lines, We romped until the pans, Slid from the kitchen shelf, create an image of how boisterous the father and son were as they danced around. Is it impress then that the mothers countenance/Could not unfrown itself, possibly because she has to tidy up after them? The images of the battered hands and the palm caked hard by dirt, indicate that the father worked hard all day, probably at manual labor. Finally, the son Still clinging to your shirt conveys his unwillingness to let go of father, not wanting their fun to end.When interpreted in terms of the father and son bonding, this could be an autobiographical poem. The battered hand and a palm caked hard by dirt relate to the fact that Roethkes father ran a greenhouse and it involved gardening and manual labor. It is known that Roethke had a happy childhood and was devastated his father died when he was just 14. The battered hand and a palm caked hard by dirt relate to the fact that Roethkes father ran a greenhouse and it involved gardening and manual labor. But is this all theres to the poem? Some critics have interpreted the poem in a dark, ominous way.Is Roethkes My Papas Waltz a poem about a sons happy recollections of playing with his father or is this about alcoholism and child execration? Youve just seen how this can be construed in the light, happy way, not lets see how this poem can take a dark turn.The image that the father beat time on the childs head with a battered hand, and of the whiskey on his breath is believed by some to indicate that the father would come home drunk and be physically abusive. This is used to explain why, the son is dizzy and hung on like death. The line, My right ear scraped a buckle, is also interpreted as a sign of violence. When interpreted like this the mothers frowning countenance, is believed to convey her helplessness as she couldnt save her child from her so aker husband.Which of these two interpretations holds true? Its interesting that when the poem was published in 1948, it was viewed only as a happy, loud, and strenuous dancing around of the father and son. More recently, this poem has been interpreted as a depiction of child abuse.Lesson Activity-Self-CheckedAnswer this question in 200-225 wordsWhich interpretation of Theodore Roethkes My Papas Waltz do you agree with? Support your answer with examples from the poem.Written in the first person, both Haydens Those Winter Sundays and Roethkes My Papas Waltz are about childhood memories about fathers. Interestingly, though Hayden is known to have suffered beatings at the hands of his foster parents, most critics, ignore his background and the powerful image of the chronic angers of that house, and view Those Winter Sundays as a poem about a sons regret for being unappreciative of his father. On the other hand, critics view My Papas Waltz differently some see it as a poem about child a buse and alcoholism, while some interpret it as a poem about a happy father-son relationship. These interpretations show just how important diction is in rendering a poem. The use of words such as blueblack cold and lines like, What did I know, what did I know/of loves austere and lonely offices? and Sundays too my father got up early depict the father in Haydens poem as an affectionate, caring man. While the use of dizzy, hung on like death, battered, scraped, and battered on one knuckle creates an image of an abusive father in Roethkes My Papas Waltz.Lets look at how these two poems compare structurally. Those Winter Sundays is an American sonnet with three stanzas, the first and third stanzas are five-lines long, and the second stanza has four lines. This poem does not follow any rhyme scheme. On the other hand My Papas Waltz is made up of four quatrains and has a tight rhyme scheme of abab/cdcd/efef/ghgh that makes the poem sound like a waltz. Both Hayden and Roethke use powerf ul imagery in their poems. The lines, and put his clothes on in the blueblack cold,/ then with cracked hands that ached and banked fires blaze. from Those Winter Sundays are examples of imagery and alliteration used to describe the fathers hard work. In My Papas Waltz, Roethke also uses alliteration and imagery in lines such as But I hung on like death,/ Such waltzing was not easy, The hand that held my wrist,/ Was battered on one knuckle, and With a palm caked hard by dirt, to help readers visualize how the father and son romped around.-SummaryOver the years, poets have explored the father-child relationship in their poems. Sometimes the poem may be from a fathers perspective, sometimes from a childs, and sometimes from the perspective of a grown adult looking back at childhood memories. And depending on the poems theme, poets use different forms and poetic devices to put across their ideas about fathers. While Orr writes about what a father teaches and learns from his children, Cu mmingss my father moved through dooms of love is reverential and written in his eccentric style so he can freely express himself. Haydens Those Winter Days is written in the American sonnet form, and expresses a sons guilt at being indifferent towards his father. Roethkes tightly structured My Papas Waltz describes the rhythmic and spirited dance of a father-son relationship. Thomass Do Not Go Gentle In To The Good Night is about a son who cant deal with the thought of his father dying. And Plaths confessional Daddy is about the speakers inability to deal with her feelings of abandonment at her fathers death.